Recommendations from Adopters

Resources guide suggested by adopters

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Therapeutic Parenting Essentials: Moving from Trauma to Trust (Therapeutic Parenting Books) Paperback – 21 Oct 2019                                     Sarah Naish

All families of children affected by trauma are on a journey, and this book will help to guide you and your family on your journey from trauma to trust. Sarah Naish shares her own experiences of adopting five siblings. She describes how to use therapeutic parenting – a deeply nurturing parenting style – to overcome common challenges when raising children who have experienced trauma.

Preparing for adoption, everything adopting parents need to know. Julia Davis (adoption plus)

The ideal first book for prospective adopters. When you decide to adopt a child, you might assume that all the important work begins when the child comes to live with you. In fact the preparation stage before is crucial in ensuring that the adopted child will arrive to a safe and secure family. Preparing for Adoption provides clear advice on how to prepare for you adoptive child and create a strong foundation for a healthy and loving relationship.

The A to Z of therapeutic parenting                                     Sarah Naish

Therapeutic parenting is a deeply nurturing parenting style, and is especially effective for children with attachment difficulties, or who experienced childhood trauma. This book provides everything you need to know in order to be able to effectively therapeutically parent. Providing a model of intervention, The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting gives parents or caregivers an easy to follow process to use when responding to issues with their children.

The Unofficial guide to adoptive parenting                        Sally Donovan  

This is another book about adoptive parenting. Probably not the kind of parenting you hear about in training, or read about in text books, but the real stuff: dynamic, messy, baffling adoptive parenting, rooted in domestic life. Adoptive parent Sally Donovan combines her knowledge of trauma and attachment gleaned from training courses and therapeutic parenting experts with her lived experience of parenting two traumatised children and bridges the gap between the two.

Building the bonds of attachment                                        Dr Daniel Hughes Ph D

The connected child                                                                Karyn B Purvis Ph D

Adoptymum is a true life survival guide, detailing life as an adoptive parent, warts and all.  and Co. look like a normal family. So why is she getting uptight when someone offers her son a biscuit? Why is that angelic little girl suddenly shouting at the bus driver?

The Primal Wound                                                                   Nancy Newton Verrier

 For anyone involved in an adoption process, this is a vitality important book to read and acknowledge some of the consequences of adoption whether you are an adoptee, an adoptive parent or a birth mother and father. 

Understanding Foetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder            Maria Catterick

Foetal Alcohol Spectrum disorders: parenting a child      Julie Brown & Dr Mary Mather

With an invisible illness

Creating loving attachments Parenting with PACE            Dr Daniel Hughes and Kim Golding

The adoption of a child is always a joyous moment in the life of a family. Some adoptions, though, present unique challenges. Welcoming these children into your family–and addressing their special needs–requires care, consideration, and compassion.

Adoptymum                                                                              Elena Holmes

Inside transracial adoption                                                    Beth Hall & Gail Steinbeck

What every parent needs to know                                       Margot Sunderland

Covering everything from breastfeeding to brain development, this brand new edition includes the latest thinking on how screen time affects your child’s brain, and a focus on how love, nurture, and play contribute to your child’s development. With a wealth of fascinating chapters including ‘sleep and bedtimes’ and ‘why children behave badly’,

Why can’t my child behave?                                                  Dr Amber Elliot

Parenting a child who doesn’t know how to be parented is the most difficult job in the world’ This book provides friendly expert advice on how to respond to difficult behaviours and emotions for parents of children with developmental trauma. Each chapter focusses on the common difficulties faced by carers or parents and features quick, applicable ideas with exercises and illustrations. 

Twenty things adoptive children wish their adoptive parents knew.       Sherrie Eldridge

Best-Seller Since 1999! Required Reading by Many Adoption AgenciesWhy your happy child runs a 102 fever on her birthday, Why adoptees resist talking about adoption with parents and How to Gain Entrance into the child’s world/not gain entrance

Adopters stories

Learning to loved Amy                                                            Mia Marconi

No Matter What                                                                       Sally Donovan

And then there were four                                                      Emma Sutton

Me the boy and the monster                                                 Cat McGill

Adopted adults

The boy who was raised as a dog                                         Bruce Perry       

Poverty Safari                                                                            Darren McGarvey                             



Overwhelmed and under pressure

My name is Andy and I’m currently a husband and father of a 14 year old son. I say currently because as a family we are in the process of adopting a little girl. 

The adoption & Fostering podcast Al Coates & Scott Carson-Rennie

Conversation & discussion on contemporary Adoption & Fostering

The first4adoption podcasts

Our podcasts share information, opinions and stories from people whose lives have been touched by adoption.

The adoptee on

Adoptees On is a community filled with resilient and passionate adult adoptees. We were adopted as infants or children and are now discovering as adults that with adoption comes loss and hidden grief. The conversations shared on the Adoptees On podcast are insightful, informative, and validating. 

The adoption on BBC Radio 4 podcast

Sources of more information

First4adoption is the national adoption information service for England.

New family social promotes the care and upbringing of children by LGBT+ adopters and foster carers by providing space to socialise and share support.

Adoption UK is a national charity run by and for adopters.

A national project that supports child welfare systems and connects children in foster care with families.

FASD Network UK  was started as a support group led by families who were raising children with Foetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders.

gay adoptive dad’s blog on his life with a 6 year old son.

Under 5

Childrens books

The Blanket Bears: Samuel Langley-Swain

the red thread: Grace Lin

Motherbridge of love:

Over the moon Karen K

All bears need love Tayna Valentine

Born from a heart Berta Serrano

Tell me about the night I was born Jasmine lee Curtis

We belong together Todd Parr

The paperdolls Julia Donaldson

No matter what Debi Gliori

On no George Chris Hauton

I love you blue kangaroo Emma Chichester

Met the parents Peter Bentley & Sarah Ogilvie

Finn Throws a fit David Elliott and Timothy Basil Ering

Mouse was mad Linda Urban & Henry Cole

The snowy day Ezra Jack Keats

Peanut David Lucas

The teasles baby bunny Susan Bagrall and tommaso Levente tani

Penguin Polly Dunbar

The invistable string Patrice Karst

Little people big dreams Lizabeth Keizer

Mama do you love me Barbara M Joose  

Charlie Chatty and the wiggley worry worm  Sarah Naish, Rosie Jeffries & Amy Farrell

William wobbly and the very bad boy Sarah Naish, Rosie Jeffries & Amy Farrell

The kissing hand  Audrey penn

The boy who built a wall around himself  Ali redford  & Kara simson

 Ida,always  Caron levis & Charles santosoDonavan.

Papa do you love me Barbra m joose

Cant you sleep little bear martin waddell Barbara firth

I wished for you Marianne Richmond

Bily bramble and the great bake off, Kara Mchale and sally  Donavan

Gilbert the great jane Clarke and Chalres Fuge

I love you little monster giles Andreae Jess Mikkhail

Whistle for willie Ezra Jack Keats

How are you feeling today baby bear Janes Evan and Laurence Jackson

A mother for choco Keiko Kasza

The day the sea went out and never came back margot sunderland and Nicky Armstrong

The frog who longed for the moon to smile margot sunderland and Nicky Armstrong

The huge bag of worries Virginia ironside and frank rogers

The nanny goats kid Jeanne Willis and Tony Ross

what makes a baby cory Silverberg and Fiona Smyth

where the wild things are Maurice Sendak

guess how much I love you Sam McBratney and Anita Jeram

nutmeg gets adopted. Judith Foxon

kit kitten and the topsy turvey feelings janes Evens